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The Joys of being a Gay Man



By Max Roberts

Are you a top or a bottom or are you verse?

I am sure you have heard that before!

One of the great things about being gay is that your sexual positions can change in life . Sometimes I may feel like being a bottom  in the morning. I may feel like a top in the evening .

What is  your preferential sex position? I know you have one. Have you always been a top or always been a bottom?

Let’s talk man to man here…have you ever tried to become more versatile?

I say switch it up and bring some new experiences, feel some new sensations.

As we get older, I believe that one must experience new things. You may have tried being a top when you were younger and failed at it. But today is a new day. You might be the best top in the world and you  just don’t know it.

If you are in a committed relationship, and you are always in the same roles, sex maybe come boring… Dull.

Don’t get trapped and fall into roles.

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If you are single, one of the greatest things about being versatile is that you are potentially sexually compatible with anyone.

We are gay men damn it ..we can always switch it up unlike our straight counterparts.

As a versatile man, I don’t have to deal with any of that straight crap. It wasn’t always like this, however, when I first came out of the closet I was absolutely petrified  that someone would say who is the man? Who is the woman?,  especially when relatives would talk.

Psychologically it weighed on me. I wanted to be the man. To be penetrated meant to take away everything I thought I was supposed to be which is crazy because  that is what hetro society forced me to believe.  As I got older I realized this was anything but true.

When you are versatile anything is possible.  Sex becomes much more exploratory and kinkier. We will have much more freedom. which makes it less boring and actually more loving  .

Can it be scary? You bet it can . I know that I am terrified at times at being a bottom.  I am just getting used to it. The more I do it, the more orgasmic it has become.  Being vulnerable is ok, it is kinda sexy as well to your partner.  Tell your partner, that you haven’t been a top or bottom much, I am sure that he will assist you in any way he can.

In short, don’t t get stuck in roles. Your a gay man which is awesome and very orgasmic in many ways..no holes barred!



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  1. ChicagoB

    November 6, 2015 at 6:31 pm

    Let’s not forget another option: those of us that don’t really like anal sex whatsoever. Anal sex is only one small fraction of the wide varieties of sexual experiences. Also, whenever I see someone say that they are “Verse”–I ask them if they are a poet? If they are free verse or blank verse? It’s funny how a literature term has replace the old “vers” for versatile!

    • Keith Umpleby

      May 8, 2016 at 10:41 pm

      Totally agree, Was with my partner for 30 years until his death and anal penetration was not part of our relationship there are lots of other things to do together

    • Gary

      November 14, 2016 at 3:08 am

      Thank you for saying that. I feel so isolated in the gay world because I don’t enjoy anal.

  2. John

    April 17, 2017 at 12:23 am

    “Sometimes I may feel like being a bottom because I feel a little more feminine in the morning.”

    Really? Bottoming is feminine?
    What a nonsense.
    I stopped reading after that line.

    • williamsmith

      April 17, 2017 at 3:25 am


      You are right. We changed it.
      The staff at GLA40

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