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Don’t Get Hooked in: Online Dating Scams

by William Smith

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Looking for Love? Sure. But where? Online Dating sites have been so popular for so long. It makes sense to meet hundreds of people in a short time in the coziness of your own home instead of meeting guys in various venues . It can save time and money. So where does the online dating scams fall into this ?

There are some scammers out there on the other side waiting just for you. They are looking at the profiles of gay males that are ages 40 and up .  Most Internet scammers operate and are concentrated in countries like Australia, Russia, the Ukraine, Malaysia, the Philippines, Nigeria, Ghana, the UK and South Africa. Not all men from these countries are guilty of scamming but a majority of incidences have been reported from these locations to make one pause before getting involved .   Their objective is to hook you in and get cash and gifts.

These are the immediate signs of a scammer:

  • They focus on 40+ gay males. They figure they are lonely and lack confidence in themselves in finding someone.
  • There is usually a 20 year difference in age.
  • They may say they are living in the USA originally on their profile but all of a sudden have to go to the UK or Africa, etc.  due to a problem like a job transfer, parents sick, etc.
  • He says he is looking for a man who is trustworthy in his profile.
  • He wants to immediately know about your life especially what you do for a living, and  do you live alone. He wants your phone number and your personal email address and your maybe your home address.
  • He wants you to leave the secured dating site and chat by emails and even texting by phone. He will ask you for your email address within an hour of chatting with him on the dating website. He wants to avoid getting deleted or blocked. The more he can find out about you, the better. Do not give him your phone number. If you feel compelled to get to know him, then ask for his number. Google the area code. Most likely it is in a foreign land.

The relationship will build really fast. He will call you his love and his boyfriend in just days.

You may get an email from him and it will be missing your name or contain someone elses. It feels and sounds like a form letter. In the letter, he may even say he is looking for the perfect girl. If you question him, he will question your trust and say it was a mistake about the girl thing.

  • There will be a very limited amount of pictures of him.  He looks like a model . If it is too good to be true, it usually is . Most pictures are never in casual environments but done in a studio or photo shopped.
  • He will come up with excuses of why he cannot use webcam. Web cam is available in all countries especially at internet cafes.

The scammer talks a lot about honesty and trust in less than 5 minutes.

An actual real example demonstrates this:

“I am looking for someone honest and truthful to chat and see how it goes. I am not into games. I am very honest and truthful and I want someone the same.”

  • (just now)Unread Hope you will tell me more about yourself in your next reply.
  • (just now)Unread I am also Fine,I’m highly impressed with your cooperation and I will love to know more about you if you don’t mind.My name is Richard Klopah.I am 35 years of age.I am mixed raced guy.My mum was an Italian and my Dad was an American.I spent most of my time living in Livorno,Italy until i lost my parents in a Car accident some couple of years ago.Life was very tough for me in Italy and so i had to move back to Texas,USA and the continue with Life.My life has been full of tragedies because I’ve never found any Kind Hearted person who is willing to spend the rest of his life with me.I live in a Rented Apartment here in Houston.I work as a Civil Engineer.I do architectural Designs and Arts and my work allows me to get business appointments from Companies all over the world.Talking about my hobbies,I enjoy sex,deep kissing,shopping,reading of books,cooking and visiting the Cinema when am lonely.

     

  • (2 mins ago)Unread For how long have you been single and searching?How many guys do you chat with apart from me?

 

  • (2 mins ago)UnreadI thank you very much for your heart touching message.I have been a gay all my life.My parents were always proud of me because they knew that was my life.I have been single for about 3 years now after my ex partner cheated on me and dumped me for another guy.I was very supportive and loving to him but he never appreciated.I feel very lucky to meet a great man of your Caliber on A4A. Besides,its my first time on A4A and a good friend of mine recommended this dating app for me.To be honest with you,you’re the only guy am chatting with and I will love to know more about you because you sound very positive..I just can’t stop staring at your A4A profile picture.You look so stunning and Cunning.I also think we share something common.Who knows,we may be God sent to each other.

 

Now he will try to take you off the dating site so he can not get reported and try to get more personal information.

  • (just now)Unread You can leave me your Phone number and email address in your next reply.Hugs and Kisses to you.
  • (just now)Unread I am a very loyal,Caring,Loving and and a God fearing person.I am not really bothered with age or distance because i believe love has no boundaries.I am ever willing to love my man with all my heart and then make his happiness my number one priority. If a man treats his man with respect and tenderness, who cares how old he is.I am a Christian by religion and my Favorite color is blue. If you don’t mind,I will like us to enjoy some privacy as we get to know more about each other. We can chat on an instant messenger and then share some emails and texts if you don’t mind.This is my email address rklopah@gmail.com

 

The hook of getting the money goes like this:

 

  • He may need money in order to purchase a web cam to finally see his love.

or

  •  The mother and father died years ago. He is taking care of his sister. The sister and him are in near poverty. His sister becomes sick.  He needs help for her medicine.

 or

  • He has been robbed. He is staying with friends. They are mean to him. They are treating him like dirt.

 or

  • He wants to visit you but he needs money for a visa and travel. He will pay you once he gets a job in the states. You send him money. When he is planning to leave go and see you, there will be a problem at the port with customs. He needs more money. The custom agent may actually call you and talk to you. The scammer ( your lover)  will be in the distance begging you to send him money.

 

The money will be wired transferred from western union or money gram by you to him. He may even be brazen to ask for your checking account and that he can get the money out of convenience for you because he knows a way how. The scammer keeps asking for money until you can’t afford or the fraud is perceived.

If you do not send the money or more money, he will get angry and say all men are alike. He will say he is heart-broken and that he trusted you. Why, he exclaims, don’t you trust him?  ( There is that word “Trust “again) Do not feel sorry for him because he is trying to hook you back in.

If you tell him, your friends that he is scamming you, he will say they are just jealous of you .

He will attempt to contact you maybe two more times and then he will go away and find his next victim.

If you tell him, you lost your job. Don’t find anything sympathy from him. You will never hear from him again . It is nearly guaranteed,

I hope this article helps you. The dating sites are fun to go on. Utilize dating sites as one source of meeting guys.  Read this linked article because it will stretch your Imagination in looking beyond a website . It is called the Dating Game

Just beware of the scammers. If you have seen some of these guys try to target you on the dating sites, do not get down on yourself or feel you are a loser ….they are targeting anyone that is 40 +. Just block the person and report itDon’t take it personal!  Again, not every guy  in these countries is guilty of scamming but you must pause and concentrate on what he is saying to you.

Don’t get hooked in and keep on aging forward with resiliency!

UPDATE

scam alert

People using dating sites to scam gay men saying they are military men stationed in Afghanistan or else where in the middle east. The scammers are using stolen photos of a real American soldier he has never met. His entire goal is to form a fake relationship in order to steal your money.

The scammer approaches you on a dating site and  says he lives in California but he is stationed over there with the military. He says the only way he can talk on the phone is if I write to his commander and he will give you an email address such as  a.usarmy@consultant.com . He says he needs you  to write to them and ask them if you can have him contact you on your cell phone. He will tell you there might be a fee. You would have to pay before you could talk to him.

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He will be back in November of this year and he has a daughter he got a Nanny for her while hes overseas fighting for our country.  He is divorced because he is gay and he doesn’t have enough money to pay for the nanny.

Realize

  • It is also an offence for troops to publicize details of the deployment of their units over the internet. It would also be rather bizarre to put a Combat unit in the field on a peace keeping mission.
  • Single dads who are soldiers cannot just leave their child with a nanny or babysitter–they have written care plans that are reviewed by their superiors.

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Someone will say they are from the states but may call you Mate. They will say you are cute and would you like you  to join a group of men that have sex on the weekends on a regular basis. He may show pics of the guys that go to these parties on a regular basis . He will want your private email so he can send you details and the location of the party. In the email, the kicker is that you must fill out a form first in order to be invited in. He will want your name , address, and credit cards number because there is a small fee for joining so they can pay for party favors and alike for the party. Be wary of such forms. If you can’t meet a guy locally , I would advise not giving private information out.

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Don’t ever send Nudes..We are at an age where one should be looking for someone  at a deeper and more meaningful  level …but it still happens !!

Scam Alert to the LGBT Community

Please make everyone aware and Share This

There have been reports in the Ohio, Kentucky, Michigan, and Indiana areas of someone connecting through dating apps then giving cell phone info for people to contact them.

They say they are in their 20’s and start sending nudes. They ask for nudes in return. Then a number messages you, claiming to be a parent. They tell you that you’ve been talking to their underage child and that they are pressing charges.

They say they want to work things out with you. You might even have a missed call from the Local Police or Sheriff. They might even call you to talk with you.

So here’s the truth…
this is a scam.
The Sheriffs office in Columbus Ohio has been getting people reporting it happening this week to multiple people. The point of this scam is to try to get people to pay money to not have whatever pics were sent released or charges pressed. They might ask for gift cards, or other items of value. The Sheriffs department says there is no minor involved but beware of this and to get the word out.

The missed call from local police or law enforcement is a phone app that tricks your caller Id to think someone else is calling. Basically it lets you put in whatever numbers you want to show on the other persons I’d.

Most people know that you shouldn’t ever send nudes on any social media or through text messages but these scam artists are also lying saying that even if you didn’t send anything that you actually did.

If someone has contacted you from the phone numbers of 1 (405) 349-3224 or 1 (803) 566-1168 it is a scam.

Also if you have any questions or have been impacted by this scam in any way please contact the Columbus Sheriff department 1 (614) 525-3448

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73 Comments

  1. Tomas

    December 26, 2013 at 11:56 am

    Scary but its true..they are out there.

  2. George

    January 4, 2014 at 5:15 am

    Very Informative….Thanks a lot!!

  3. Lana

    January 4, 2014 at 7:46 pm

    Wow! Online dating sites can be very sketchy, and I have heard of many cases like this. It is good to know that this website provides reliable information. I agree with every word written, it’s so important to know that some dating sites can be harmful and even burn a hole in your pocket! I am definitely going to share this with some of my good friends. You created a very genuine and helpful article. Please keep up the appreciable work!

  4. RWJ?

    January 9, 2014 at 12:17 am

    How can I tell if an alleged “Business Opportunity” is actually a ponzi or pyramid scheme? I just started a $2 weely subscription with a company . But now… I’m starting to worry that the claims they are making are too good to be true And I’ve possibly fallen for a scam! 🙁

    • Humphrey Muthoni

      December 2, 2016 at 5:18 am

      If you doubt that it is real, call your bank to disconnect that transaction..I dont trust Pyramid scheme either

  5. jon terns

    January 14, 2014 at 6:07 am

    Really this is a thing?! That’s not cool, what kind of person would do that? I don’t understand these online scammers and their tactics, if they spent as much time trying to make an honest living as they did trying to scam someone, they would be very successful and profitable.

  6. John.k

    January 24, 2014 at 12:25 am

    Don’t write off internet dating sites though. At 57, I found my boyfriend through such a site. We’ve now been together for over 7 years.

  7. Kevin

    January 27, 2014 at 6:18 pm

    There is honestly so much of these kind of scams online. They make you pay/do something so you cannot get out of it. Thanks alot for sharing this should help many!

  8. Erin

    January 27, 2014 at 6:30 pm

    My brother fell for one of these sites a while back, you really need to be careful in which sites you share you personal info to because you never know what they will do with it.

  9. Jack

    January 27, 2014 at 10:30 pm

    Thanks for the heads up! This is a really good article, it’s sad to see that many people fall for this.

  10. Cute Asian guy

    February 1, 2014 at 5:28 pm

    Why you did not include US ? : ) There are some scammers here too.!! Scammers are universal no particular region, state, country, race or any kind of sort. Just take always precaution in dealing with people. We have generally philosophy in life –People are basically good. Greed for Money makes people bad and ugly, However building trust to people will take time and from there your intuition will tell if someone is genuine or fake/scammer. Above all there is nothing wrong with personal online dating site but Im not into it. Some can be successful meeting and finding their mates around the world. I wish I can find one but Im not interested in looking–nice to be alone and celibate.. free from stress,.

    • Phillip

      December 3, 2015 at 12:34 am

      I totally agree. The U.S. is full of sociopathic scammers. I know of a few personally…one of which has done a plethora of crimes. “Hidden evil” is all over the world.

    • Ron Samuel

      August 15, 2016 at 2:46 pm

      MTV’s ‘Catfish The TV Show” anyone?

  11. Scott

    February 4, 2014 at 10:36 pm

    It’s hard to believe that anyone still falls for these things but when you add loneliness to the equation, anything is possible.

  12. Adam

    February 7, 2014 at 4:56 pm

    Yea watch out guys… I always prefer to go out and meet real people, Internet is too dangerous… look at russia…

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  14. Justin Doopel

    February 22, 2014 at 3:55 pm

    I have never been on the wrong side of an internet dating site, but maybe that’s because of my non-existent usage of it. I think finding true love is better in real life than on the internet, plus things like this are always a high risk. Great this is being notified to people though!

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  21. Rolf K. Mueller

    October 14, 2014 at 2:55 am

    Thank you so much for sharing this useful information but let me tell you this.
    Scammer you find now in all ages and the hide behind perfect Profiles from real Persons they are Prominent more or less.
    You can find them in any Internet portals.
    Be careful when things like that happen to you
    He will meet you in Person, but always something happen so you will never see him.
    He not give his Phone number to you?
    He send you Photos without exif information, test it no Infos? load the Photo to Google picture search and see what you will find, is it someone Prominent that you not know? ok delete all about him and forget.
    Thank´s for reading my message

    take care of yourself

    Greetings from Germany

    Ps.
    Sorry, I know my english is not the best …

    • Bill

      October 31, 2015 at 9:25 am

      I have been scammed by someone in Hungary, posing as living in the Ukraine. We have been emailing every day, for the last 2 months. He got my trust AND my heart with “gooey” emails and I foolishly sent some money to help him with his airline ticket. (DAMNIT). I have used an email tracing service and got his IP address and location and reported to the FBI IC3 website. There is TONS more that I could post, but it would be a book and I am still recovering from the heartbreak!
      Kicker is that he stole pictures of himself (yeah, right) from a russian model’s VF (like facebook) page. I tried the google image test, and came up almost empty handed, BUT I noticed the pictures had been mirrored (swapped left to right). When I “un mirrored” them… BAM they all came up from this model’s site.
      My world came apart when I saw this, but that is when I traced some test emails!
      So look very carefully at the photos and see if they have been mirrored because google images won’t work if they are mirrored.
      Damn crooks!…and your right the grammar isn’t very good either!

      • williamsmith

        October 31, 2015 at 3:32 pm

        I am sorry to hear about your experience. This is happening at alarming rates so I want to keep on updating this article. Keep the faith in finding love. Don’t give up but do your homework like you are doing . We at Gay Life After 40 commend you for your honesty and support with your story. It only helps the community. God Bless!

  22. Steve

    October 26, 2014 at 6:30 pm

    Not all scammers are after a quick gain. I thought I was reasonably intelligent and wouldn’t be taken in by a scammer, but I have. In total, I have been taken for €25,000 over a year. This guy messaged me online, himself about the same age as me 51… We talked for a period of time, he then got me to change to Skype or SMS… Over a period of time it was the we’re going to start a new life together… and he always told me he was short of money due to the economic crisis, where he had lost everything a few years before. As I said, this happened over a period of months… He then got me to send him money via Western Union… When we were together, it would be ok as he would work and pay me back… There were many incidences where my head said “no this isn’t right” but my heart said otherwise… and he always seemed to have a plausible excuse. My advice: Always, always listen to your head!!!!

    • williamsmith

      October 31, 2015 at 3:37 pm

      Also, guys ask your closest friends or relatives if you feel something maybe wrong. If they agree, that something “smells rotten in Denmark”, it will help empower you. Moreover, say no to the person requesting money and see what his reaction will be…you will usually find the answer.

      • Derek

        February 17, 2016 at 12:51 am

        Hi I emailed some one on Gaydar so I give him my email address and lots of photos of me on holiday. He told me he would like to have me so he emailed me for one week . He told me he was in Afghanistan for USA and he was going to love me. But last night he emailed me and asked me if I could save money for him so I fort it was fun so I put in is name in my lap top and it showed is photo and told me it was a scam so I emailed him telling him I was going to tell police and Gaydar he was on there with a Wong account and he as never emailed me again and he is on Facebook what will Facebook and Gaydar do about it

    • Ron Samuel

      August 15, 2016 at 2:51 pm

      It is my understanding after years of watching MTV’s ‘Catfish The TV Show’ that the longer they drag it out, the more victims they are luring. Think about it: $30 a day over a month is $600 a month, for one or two people? It adds up to a decent living.

  23. Michael

    November 23, 2014 at 12:46 pm

    I have a boy in Brazil who acted like a scammer as he has implied he needs help and I have sent him money but I have seen him on webcam and he has spent 6 months talking to me. I am not sure whether he is or is not a scammer but time will tell I suppose. He started off like any scammer saying he loved me and missed me within 2 minutes of talking on skype but over time I have come to doubt he is fake. I have accused him and it has ruined our online relationship. I would recommend care.

    • Ron Samuel

      August 15, 2016 at 2:55 pm

      Don’t ever forget that people do this for a living. One down, a million to go. It means nothing to him to lose one and he’ll let you beg and plead to take him back…. and he will…. when you send him some more money.

  24. Dave

    February 2, 2015 at 10:29 pm

    This is a very informative article. And a lot of the same is true with straight dating, girls from foreign countries, even girls in the US, who try to scam older guys. Many sites have their scammers and cheaters. That’s why it’s good to use a site that has been researched and analyzed first. http://gayboyz.com/ does that and then rates the online gay dating sites. Wherever one looks for love, it is always better to put common sense ahead of hope. That’s a hard thing for people who are lonely, even if they are not that old. We want a partner and can get easily flattered throwing all careful thought out the window. So do join gay dating sites, but be careful.

  25. john

    June 24, 2015 at 9:17 pm

    very interesting

  26. cdh

    October 20, 2015 at 10:05 pm

    scammer going by the user name grannv posing as a military guy!! sick!

  27. Scammer experience

    October 30, 2015 at 12:35 am

    Pretty much the truth. I have had about 5 of these, all follow the same pattern as mentioned, this one takes the cake though. Read this to find out why,

    He said he needed me to do something very important for him so he goes on to write,

    This is very confidential and I want you to know I trust you so much.On our patrol days ago, We run into a terrorist hideout and there was a bomb explosion.We, the US Army were there at the rescue.I practically save the life of a woman and her daughter.We saved lives of so many people and they have been hospitalized.Also We caught some of the rebels with some fire arms and I will reveal more about them to you later.You can’t believe the woman and her daughter i saved belongs to a family of a sultan who is an oil baron here in Afghanistan.

    Yesterday morning I was at the base when I was called by the Senior commander to meet some visitors who happened to be the Sultan and his family.The man explain to me i don’t know how much his family mean to him and he had to compensate me. You can’t believe he gave me 30kg of Gold for risking our lives.I became speechless and I had to accept this offer from him.I’m so surprise and I want you to know you are the reason for everything.This is total reward from God to our lives Honey.

    Now he wants to send it to me for safe keeping until he gets home. And like most he loves me after the second email chat.

    His next email wanted my name and address so a USA courier could deliver in person.

    Definitely a scammer.

    • Derek

      February 17, 2016 at 1:00 am

      Hi yes what you are saying as happened to me but now I have told him he is a scam and now he does not email me

      • williamsmith

        February 17, 2016 at 1:43 am

        Very Good job Derek! That is the latest scam. I would notify gaydar and Facebook and see what they will do. Gaydar may delete his account. Thank you for helping the community!!

        • bob

          March 3, 2016 at 2:17 pm

          The guy who almost scam me was from gaydar. He deleted his profile too. I know he didn’t get my money but he totally destroyed my heart. I stop looking for a love due to trust issue

        • Derek

          July 28, 2016 at 10:03 pm

          Hi I have told facebook but they have not got back to me

  28. Jmac

    December 23, 2015 at 3:25 am

    cdh,

    I’m currently talking to someone that has that same user name. Can you give me more info on him? I feel like he may not be legit after he asked me to send him money for a PS4

  29. paul

    January 11, 2016 at 2:26 pm

    Wonderful blog! I found it while surfing

  30. Harry

    January 27, 2016 at 11:13 pm

    Thank you very much for what you do on this site. I have been tricked twice, being much to naïve i sent some money to a Russian young man i had been discussing with on the web. His “sister” wrote to me saying he was due to have an operation they couldn’t afford. After a while, I noticed i couldn’t have more information on what exactly the guy was suffering of. I told I was broke and jobless and the relationship just vanished. Second time i received a demand for help from a guy who said he was stuck in an African town without means to go away, after being, so he said, left alone by his local lover. He was asking for solidarity, promising to pay me back when back home. I sent him to the Consular office of our embassy and to the local parish priest. Never heard of him anymore. So I stopped all relations to far away places, all relations asking for money. I stick to my local environment and to people I can meet publicly. I feel much better. Still angry against myself how come I could have been so stupid to believe that a gorgeous young man could so suddenly develop an absolute love towards an elderly guy. Better late than ever. Thank you for reading my testimony and keep up this excellent work.

    • Wayne

      April 24, 2017 at 8:25 pm

      Thanks for this I been email a 24 your old from Russia I am 55 gay male ,he say he gay, site only Lads after two months said he loves me etc. I knew money would come in to the emails yes this did had eye probably need 28000 rubles or he would go blind, yes right said in his last email about his eye but not to me. The young man must have a few of us on the go. The week before, he said had a holiday coming up in a week would come to New Zealand for two months live with me i was only man for him yes right . I said ok give me the fright infor etc, I was falling in love this end with him [I know,now] he said his eyes are no good and no one in his life. My heart say send but I will not he was good . I had two others at the same time I will not talk to any gay old or young from oversea now ,over it so upset reading others on here has helped I not going to reply to his email for money I going to move on thanks Wayne

  31. Richard Cooper

    February 6, 2016 at 2:38 pm

    I had one contact me from Russia. It was hilarious I spotted that scam a mile away! LOL

  32. Black Man Lover

    February 26, 2016 at 3:19 am

    I am, and have been very leery of my contact in Ghana. I am married (to the black man of my dreams), with a house, dog, picket fence here in the US. Just got on Jack’d for a whim, and boredom, I guess. I would never leave my husband to go to another country to chase love… and I would never meet anyone in Ghana. This guy seems legit as a friend… has never asked for money’ and I will never volunteer. He knows my situation, and he knows what I expect, yet all your warning signs apply…lol. Not sure what is going on here… A threesome would be great

  33. bob

    March 3, 2016 at 2:13 pm

    Recently i was scammed by someone. It just after 2 days i created my profile in a gay dating site, someone pm me with his interest on me. I’m literally excited about it, cuz it has been years i didn’t communicate or hook up with gay men (try to forget ex). He told he was from new york, his looking forward to come to my country, to do some research about his product that he sells (herschel product). Things is make few mistakes, i realized that his profile doesn’t say much about him. The only pictures he send to me through WhatsApp, 2 pictures that was taken by someone else. None of it looks like his taking selfie or i would say its like a professional photographer took his pictures. The relationship between me and him was growing fast than i imagine. I didn’t want to listen to my mind, my mind said he was a fake. But i didn’t listen to my mind and it was a big mistake i ever did to my life. As week come by, he told me he just take a flight from JFK Airport with a location in WhatsApp. He told me, he will arrive in my country at 4:25pm . And then, around 1.30pm that day. He texted me, he told me he had this problem with airport security they held him in a room. I asked why? He said, the security told him that he bring a lot amount of money which consider as money laundering. So , i ask him, didn’t you declare your money? And he said , no. And that time i didn’t think yet. And then i try look for a solution in google, i don’t found solution but what i found is something else. People shared their story of scammed by romance. After reading those article, i made a decision not talk to him yet. So I ask one of my bestfriend, she works in international airport in my country, after listen to what have she told me. Everything look cleared to me.. omg i was so shocked. I didn’t know this kind of person existed. She said there is a lot of people come to this airport try to help out their ‘lover’. But when security check their ‘lover’ name, it doesn’t even exist in the system… Btw, he asked me to pay for him $1800. I told him, i don’t have any of those. I just started my job last week. And he said he will pay back today. But after i talk to mybestfriend. I send him a last message, i told him. I don’t believe this, i thought you are real. I didn’t know people scam love for a money. And after i block him. His WhatsApp account deactive/gone. And then, there’s 2 chinese girl contact me via WhatsApp. Which both of them i’m block. I learned my lesson, never trust people ever again.

  34. Michael Walters

    March 4, 2016 at 3:38 am

    Some of this sounds all too familiar. I tend to get caught up fairly easily and yet, the “radar signals” always make me stop and question what guys are telling me. It is a killer for a while, but I just pick myself up and keep trying. Somewhere in this big world is the one just for me.

  35. Steve

    March 24, 2016 at 10:12 am

    I too have been constantly “friended” on gay.com. We would chat for a few weeks and then all of a sudden they need something because they are somewhere where there is no bank or facilities. gay.com is the only site i have had trouble with, with fake profiles. But i have learnt to do a few tricks that are part of their profile that instantly show me who or what they are, after i nearly got scammed. One even created a facebook profile and had god knows who be his friend to make himself legit. It wasn’t until i did a google image search on his profile did i realize he was full of shit

  36. Kazim Hasan

    July 17, 2016 at 7:13 pm

    Twice. It almost happened to me twice. The first guy allegedly fell in love with me the moment he saw my profile on realjock. I immediately realized that this is a scam so I played along. He claimed that he was posted in Yemen. After an exchange of emails he said he wanted $5000 for an orphanage in Texas. When I asked him for the name of the town,he disappeared. The other scammer was also on realjock. He ultimately demanded an iPhone 6. He claimed that he was posted in Afghanistan. He wanted the iPhone delivered to his friend in Marshalltown Iowa. I got the address and communicated with the friend. The response I got was that this friend had done this once before and was never doing it again. The scammer actually lives in Accra.

  37. Mark

    July 25, 2016 at 8:29 pm

    I’ve just”uncovered” my third Afghanistan soldier scam. I was suspicious when he listed some of his favorite things to do were “go to the mall, visit art museum, concerts” and other fluffy things inconsistent with a seasoned Army guy. Lived in San Fran. Soon to retire. Can I see you when I do? I need your phone number, email, etc. And there was never an answer why he was on an active duty peacekeeping mission. All three of my suitors had the same high pressure line. Except this last one had s Facebook page. One dating site guy posted three pictures of himself…they were all different men! When I asked, he evaporated. Amazing. I’m lonely, but suspicious enough not to be fooled, I hope

  38. Michael

    August 23, 2016 at 9:41 pm

    A guy just attempted to scam me on “Only Lads.” He says he is from Austria, but an engineering contractor working in South Africa on a project. Funny thing, he didn’t even need to mention “Africa” … but he brought it up. Anyway, thanks to a VERY helpful guy on this site, I mirrored the pics and reversed searched them on Google Images. BAM – they belong to an unfortunate victim. I’m glad I caught on before I did anything stupid.

  39. Mark

    September 2, 2016 at 6:24 pm

    I kept getting contacted by these scammers on various sites, they were using male model Philip Fusco’s photo’s under various names, one got mad when I told confronted him about it, and said he is my brother and I use his photo’s when ever I want, and like was mentioned above they always say they are from the states but currently in Ghana.

  40. Humphrey Muthoni

    December 2, 2016 at 5:08 am

    It is very true, I was a victim long time ago and I lost a certain amount of dollars, nowadays it is easy for me to identify the scammers…I just ask someone for a photo and see what excuse they will give….I agree with you, but there are noce guys online…Many met their partners online..So, it is all about how smart you are to suspect scammers….It was a hard lesson that i learned…never again….Nowadays they tell you to download BB Messenger…Dont trust that person….If he or she takes long to send pictures, dont trust thay person…just ignore him

  41. kester

    January 10, 2017 at 4:01 am

    i have a person met at planetromeo saying his working in Nigeria in a big company claiming that his rich ,a mansion, cars and he said his living in frankfurt.But his using email with bk.ru., his so sweet and making me fall inlove with we are still in contact as of this moment because he is waiting for me to send him money because his credit fall in the water when hi rides a boat and his asking 2500usd for the payment of his hotel.he also show picture of a rolex wathc which he give to me when we meet here in japan and even offering his range rover car to me.he even send me invoice of his hotel bill where he cannot pay because his credit was lost.and send me his plane ticket his arrival is 13january2017 and already booked hotel but cancelling date is 10january2017 in which bfore this cancelling he claims that problem of his lost card and ask me to him money thru western union .he even asked me if i live alone , how much my salary , how much is my bank savings,.He is showing love and affection for you to believe his real but his sending me picture thru email and it takes time for him to send it and when i tried to video call his phone it does support it ..and ive check with hotel he claims where he stay in nigeria and also the recipient where the money to be send where he claim his the manager of the hotel.also no such person related to the hotel.

  42. A Sutherland

    February 24, 2017 at 1:50 am

    I think I nearly was scammed. had a guy Michael t Mull in US army say usualy I love you, want a trusting partner ect ect and to marry me withing 3 days of chat. he found me on SURGE after 2 days on the site.
    a week after chatting he was coming to uk to see me , 2 days later he had bad news!!! to tell me he was just told by his commander that they were been put on duty in 2 days time to Djboutti in africa to try and stop the boco hareem rising. and to pray every day for him to surrvive.
    he would use whats app to msg me and phoned twice too but his big mistake was to ask for money as he had not packed any underwear and toiletries when he left USA, and army had froze bank accounts and no payment of wage till their company returned in 4 months.
    Now i do not know what army in us actually do regarding troops etc but i do not think they freeze your bank, and surely have back up procedures for guys needing credit.
    he wanted western union or money gram first. I told him i didnt have such banks near me, then 12 hours later it changed to chase bank in us who would send it to his army agent and they would get it to him….All I presumed a scam, and pretended i went to my bank but they would not accept my transfer when i said i told them he was army in Djboutti east Africa. I said my bank felt it was an internet scam and would not touch such a transaction on my account.
    He came back almost imed in a fould temper and his msg was strewn with all that how bad and unloyal i was, and ignorant. So IM GUESSING I OUTED HIS SCAM. I do worry in case he was genuine as he was a lovely looking guy in pics but prob to good for me anyway.

    • williamsmith

      February 24, 2017 at 2:29 am

      It was clearly a scam. Good Job!

      • Alex

        February 25, 2017 at 8:49 pm

        Thanks I’m sure it was as I chat with American friends and they feel same as never heard of any deployment in that area at moment anyway.

        • Pete

          April 26, 2017 at 6:05 pm

          I got contacted by a military guy on the app surge. Said he was a military nurse. After friendly chats for about an hour, he asked for a $50 itunes gift card. He said he needed the credit for his phone and his credit card didn’t work on base. By now we were talking by text message and I could see that he was not on iPhone’s imessage, so I thought is was really odd that he would ask for an iPhone giftcard for his phone when he doesn’t use an iPhone. Plus I barely knew him. So I saved his profile pic and sent it to my computer. Then I went to images.google.com and did a reverse image search and found the real owner of that picture on instagram. The real person is clearly heterosexual.

  43. Scott

    April 19, 2017 at 2:57 pm

    That Surge site is full of scammers…half the profiles on there are fake, and I am approached weekly by the “American military guy stationed in Syria” types….sometimes its entertaining to pretend to fall for their scams, but most if the time I simply report and delete.

    • Duy Nguyen

      May 16, 2017 at 2:29 pm

      I am glad that I googled and read your comment. Or else, I fell into the scam already. Anyway, I did fall in. I sent him so many of my pics and even recorded video for him. How stupid I was!? First time dating, and I am glad that I checked here.

  44. Piotr

    April 24, 2017 at 9:05 pm

    Hello all!
    It’s a great and useful website.
    I’m Piotr from Poland. When I was in Ukraine I started writing (planetromeo) with one guy from Kiev.
    Can you take a look at one of the typical letters that he sends ? I guess he/she is a scammerHello my dear Piotr!

    I’m very happy to read your letter! Every letter of yours gives me great happiness! It seems to me that I can not live without your letters any more! I need your letters every day! Your letters to me, like a breath of fresh air!

    I understand that you will soon go to Ukraine. To which city will you go?? How many days will you go to Ukraine?

    I still do not have the opportunity to buy a phone.

    I am very glad that you understand my feelings for you. It’s very beautiful! I’m glad that you too feel sincere feelings to me! I am very happy about it!

    Piotr, I would like to tell you about my first experience with a man. When I was in school, I liked the girl. But when I was in grade 11, a new student appeared in my class. We immediately began to communicate well with him. We became good friends. We often walked together. We constantly discussed the girls we liked. After that, he had a birthday. It was in winter. I persuaded my parents to go to sleep with my friend. My friend then left his parents. There were many friends on his birthday. But in the evening we were alone. We first watched different films, and then suddenly we started kissing! I did not even understand how it happened! But I really enjoyed it! We had sex with him! This was spectacular! But after we finished school, we stopped communicating with him. He found himself a guy! I was very surprised by this. He told me that we had sex for friendship. I was hurt. I thought that we would be together now! But I do not take offense at him. Thanks to him, I realized that I’m gay. But I never saw him again.
    My dear Piotr, what was your first experience with a man?

    Piotr, I understand that you are older than me. I think that age is just a figure! I think that for love all ages are submissive. Do you agree with me? There is no limit to love! Is not it? I think you will agree with me! After all, in serious relationships, age is not important. Only love between them is important. Do you know what I mean? I think it’s good that there is an age gap between us! You are much more experienced than me. And so our relationship with you can be strong. I think that if people of the same age are together, then this will lead to frequent quarrels. Do you think so, too?

    Dear Piotr, I want to tell you about my dream, which I dreamed last night! In this dream, we were together! We kissed and had sex! It was a beautiful dream! I’ve been thinking about this dream all day! He was beautiful! When I woke up, I felt that my cowards were damp! I survived this dream! When I woke up I thought it was real! I had a great mood when I woke up! I never got up in the morning with such a wonderful mood! I really hope that this dream will become a reality!

    My dear Piotr, I want to tell you that I imagine now how sweet it will be to kiss you on your lips. Forgive me if I’m too frank to tell you about my feelings. But it seems to me that you are my ideal guy! I feel warm and sweet feelings for you!

    My dear Piotr, I really hope that I will soon read your letter again! I want you to answer me quickly! I already miss your letters!

    I look forward to hearing from you!
    I give you a warm embrace!
    Your sweet Viktor.

    what do you guys think about it?
    Greetings and thank you in advanced for any hints

    • williamsmith

      May 18, 2017 at 2:00 am

      It sounds like a scam. Be very careful if you meet him. I don’t want it to be a trick to lure you in and a group of men rob you or beat you. If you meet him, make sure it is in open , public place.Do not go in an apartment or building behind closed doors.

  45. DateScam

    July 7, 2017 at 1:42 am

    I was scammed today. I had tickets for a gay event this weekend in Colorado and wanted to unload them. I am on business in the US at the present and my partner is in Australia. When I loaded Grindr to sell the tickets, it took less then a few minutes for someone to contact me: Discreet, bi, have a girlfriend, looking for fun. Sent me a nude and asked me to hook up, said I wasnt there to hook up and I was looking to sell tickets. Asked for a facepic and a nude, i refused to send a nude, however; within 5 minutes of sending my face pic, my partner in Australia received a message from a blank profile through facebook with a screen shot of my photo on grindr. What was weird is the profile was within 3 km from me, but the time stamps on his screen shot were Sydney time. I got the work IT to scrub my phone, however I found that when i opened my phone album to access a photo, it gave them an entry into my phone. They only got a few photos and some contact data before I severed the connection by deleting the app. I did some research and what they do is load all your information to a website, then you will receive a Text message or email telling you that it is all out for the world to see and you have to pay them to get it down. After some more discussion with people; i feel that as I would not / did not have nudes, they dumped me as a victim and just sent my partner a message. Just watch out for blank and discreet profiles, they could threaten you with anyone in your family.

  46. Rohen

    August 6, 2017 at 9:51 pm

    Has anyone had the I need an Itunes Gift card scam? Its happened twice to me now.

    Once for £5 and then another just today for £50 Of course Im not stupid nor am I blessed enough to have that kind of money to just give away. Especially to people I havent met in person. But my question is why do they think they can get away with it.?

    • George J Fogel

      September 18, 2017 at 11:08 pm

      Yes; I’ve had several requests for iTunes cards… I assume they can somehow cash them out. As to why they think they can get away with it? It only takes one person to fall for it to embolden them to keep trying. Doesn’t hurt to try.

      I do wonder how many people they can “service” simultaneously. Must get confusing…but then again, with some of them their responses never really matched my emails…so I suspected something was up pretty quickly.

  47. Mark

    August 8, 2017 at 12:32 am

    I recently had two at the same time, one said he lived in London but his profile pic said Jamestown Virginia, he did the usual talk to me on whatsapp thing, gave it the chat and a sob story that his boyfriend had died of a heart infection, within a day or two he was wanting my bank details, which I obviously declined, he soon stopped messaging, The next one said he lived in Australia, again it was the sweet talk, I’m falling for you etc, his tale was that he dropped his phone and needed £100 towards the cost of a new one, I played him at his own game and pretended that I had Western Union already. He wanted the money sending to some guy in a hotel in Nigeria, when I said how do you get from Australia to Nigeria so quickly, he got offended, saying I was accusing him of not being honest, etc….yeah, right ! Both were blocked and deleted. The U.S servicemen on active duty in Afghanistan has happened on a regular basis.

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  49. Robert

    September 13, 2017 at 4:11 am

    Thank you for the article. Very good information. I’m a 50+ widower getting back into the dating world, and that world has changed in the past 24 years.

  50. Maxfield Sparrow

    September 21, 2017 at 8:18 pm

    Thank you for publishing this. I am 50 and I joined Hornet and within a week a dozen men had contacted me. They were in their 20s, hot, and all claimed to be in the military and deployed. I felt really uncomfortable because they were all making really heavy emotional moves right off the bat, insisting that they were looking for long term committed relationships.

    I know I’m a good looking guy, but I’m twice their age and things felt really fishy to me. My profile says that I”m transgender but they were asking me other questions that could easily have been answered by looking at my very short profile, so I started telling the guys that I am transgender and asking them if they are okay with that.

    Every single one of them gave me an immediate and enthusiastic yes.

    I was born during the day but it wasn’t yesterday. I know there are many men out there who would be happy to be with a trans guy, but even they will ask questions when a guy comes out trans. Not a peep from these guys. One even told me I am perfect. Seriously? You’ve been talking to me for 20 minutes and you know five things about me yet you know I’m perfect?

    I am such a skeptic. I’m glad for that, now. I finally decided to do some Googling and found this and I feel validated. Now I need have no guilt about blowing guys off if they follow this pattern. Thank you.

    • williamsmith

      September 22, 2017 at 12:49 am

      Great feedback and we are so proud of you for stopping this from going any further.

  51. Alex

    October 15, 2017 at 2:02 am

    Well, First I thank so much for this article, because I was while a victim, so the scammers are still around, now in Daddy Hung . He said that was in Sargeant in Syria, he commands a troop, he will be retired in November, but soon I told him about it, he put that “copy-paste” scammer phrase: “you need trust to love, but first you need to love in order to trust.To love someone is to understand each other, to laugh together, to smile with your heart and to trust one another. One important thing is to let each other go if you can’t do this. Trust , Loyalty and respect are the most important thing n relationship, no matter how much you love someone if you don’t have these ingredients you will never succeed” , but after I perceive, I’d asked him to send me a picture, ( all of soldiers) and just to show his name “George” , but he forget to remove the Romania flag beside the name.., and the answer was…” was 2 weeks of secret mission” haha. But after that, I just continue talk with him, but I note that all done-phrases, and he still not gave me the shoot, asking about money – ( after I told him that I told him that I have a friend in US that works with digital crimes, virtual . Ah , and after that big copy-paste phrase, he asked me to delete my profile in Daddyhunt and he will do the same, because we will already find each other and bla bla bla , so I did it, and create a new one, and..surprise, he was there hahaha, ( not so surprise ) I already report for the website. But guys , thanks and continue do not let our guard down.

  52. Sean

    October 19, 2017 at 10:39 am

    There’s a guy on Hornet who tried to do this to me. I actually did give him my phone number and we chatted for days with the textbook “I love you’s”, and “I finally found my soulmate”, blah, blah, blah. Tons of romantic messages and declarations of love in that short amount of time is a red flag to me and I used his conversations by text as a comical distraction, waiting for him to finally ask for money. He finally did – for medicine. This from someone who was posing as a military engineer stationed in Afghanistan. I called him on his bullshit, told him he was a scammer and not to contact me again and to perhaps choose his victims more carefully. He pretended to be offended, and proceeded to continue try to text with me. Then I get awakened by his phone call and a message asking for a code texted to me. It was a verification code from whatsapp. I got his true location with the help of a detective friend and told him I was contacting the police in both my area and the state he lived in, as well as contacting Hornet with his information.

    His profile on Hornet is @lh2lx with the tagline “I need a soulmate”, age listed as 34.
    His phone number is …AT GLA40 we edited the phoene number, we cannot provide unauthorized phone numbers…
    BEWARE!

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