The Allure & Dangers of Being A Gay Sugar Daddy

The Allure & Dangers of Being A Gay Sugar Daddy by Jay Stewart

GayLifeAfter40.com is about discovering your true self after 40.  We want you to stop, observe, and take action based on what you read. Sometimes, we write about topics that are in the gay community that people may not talk about directly to each other.  Today, it is time to explore a topic that you may be familiar with or at least have thought about – being a gay sugar Daddy.  After 40, you’re at a prime age and place in life to play this alluring role.  After all, a gay sugar Daddy is simply a gay man who spends more than the average gay man would on their loved one.  The recipient is called a gay sugar baby, they’re mostly younger and accept gifts and/or financial compensation in exchange for being your companion.  Before jumping right into it, let us review some of the dangers of being a gay sugar Daddy.

Person Not Property

After 40, you may have quite the collection of properties (i.e. car, house, watches, clothes, etc.).  Your potential sugar baby is not another property.  They are a person who deserves the same respect and kindness that you would give to anybody else. You choose to lavish them with gifts and meals at upscale restaurants.  This choice doesn’t give you the right to treat them poorly.  One of the dangers of being a gay sugar Daddy is that you confuse your loved one as a property.  Do not fall into this easy trap.

Starting Without An Agreement

One doesn’t simply become a sugar Daddy, it should be a discussion point within your relationship.  It’s likely that you have the means and your younger man doesn’t.  As well, you have the desire to buy them clothes, take them on vacations, and/or help pay for their bills.  There is a real danger in entering into this relationship without clarity on what will be the give and take.  You don’t want to be taken advantage of as the gay sugar Daddy nor do you want to take advantage of your gay sugar baby.  Be mindful of each other’s thoughts and emotions and be clear about what’s happening by having a verbal or written agreement.

Sugar Babies Looking To Score

A real danger within the gay sugar Daddy/baby dynamic are those looking for a quick score.  A gay sugar baby could be in college, have debt, and have read online about an easy way to make some money.  They join a gay sugar Daddy dating site, take advantage of a guy looking for love after 40, and leave them penniless and heart broken.  That’s why it’s important to assess the motivations of your intended sugar baby.  Do they show genuine interest in you or merely what you can provide for them?  Are they only available, when they want something?  Have they proven to be distrustful?

Perception From Others

Let’s face it, the term gay sugar Daddy doesn’t usually connote a positive thought or feeling in most people.  When you walk into a social gathering with your younger man, it’s going to get people talking.  They’ll likely presume that he’s only with you for your money.  They will question if you’re having a mid life crisis.  They may even make comments about your morality.  Some might even be jealous about what you have.  Those in long-term relationships may envy your position.  One of the dangers of being a gay sugar Daddy is facing the perception of others.  You need to be so secure in your decision that this doesn’t bother you.  You recognize that you’re on your journey and they are on their own.

When we are young, many of us fantasy about being treated well by an older man.  After 40, we are now that older man.  Thoughts enter our minds about finding a younger man and showing him the ‘good life.’  We want to buy them gifts, take them to fancy restaurants, and show them our favorite places in the world.  There is no shame in admitting that you want to be a gay sugar Daddy.  Here at GayLifeAfter40.com, we simply want you to be aware of some of the dangers that may come along.  It’s important to not let your ego get involved and remember that your sugar baby is a person not your property.  If you enter in a relationship without an agreement, it won’t work out well.  Be mindful that some sugar babies are merely looking to make money and then bail. This could damage your self esteem and leave you bitter and disillusioned. It could cause so much damage to you that you may not fully recover from it.  Finally, recognize that others are going to have their perceptions and be secure that you’ve made the right decision for you

What do you think about Gay Sugar Daddies?  What do you think about doing that?  As long as both people go there seeking what the other person is offering, where’s the harm?    Do you find it morally wrong?