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9 Reasons Why I fell in Love with Bears

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by Byron Howard

 

We all have preferences on who we are attracted to . They can’t be totally controlled . I eventually accepted my preference. Some people like many types of gay people – young, old, fit, fat,, straight-acting, fem, drag queens, twinks etc.  and some people just like Bears.

I like Bears. I can’t help it. Some of my close gay friends don’t understand why . But I don’t understand why they like skinny guys who complain all day that they are a 32 inch waist and not a 30.

Bears come in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, and interests.

Bears are one of the fastest growing new subcultures in gay America

Most of today’s bears see themselves as challenging what they consider the unrealistic norms of gay mainstream society, which push idealized & unrealistic  images of gay men .

 

“One reason I think there’s been such an explosion of interest and activity around the bear community is that a lot of gay guys, as they get older, find [they put] on weight and don’t find themselves fitting the model of the svelte, young guy,” said Stevo Harris, publisher of “A Bear’s Life” magazine. “They look around for new models — and they discover there’s a bear community in which men have real bodies, not the fantasies you see on television.”

 

I like Bears, on a personal level,  for 9 reasons:

1. Bears accept themselves and are confident . He is not worrying about or comparing himself to others. He is saying that he is a man first and foremost.

2, Bears like to socialize. They are mellow but not boring. They like to talk with each other and not stare into their cell phones. I like that I can see a person looking into my eyes.

3. Bears like to drink with each other and most prefer not to participate in drugs.

4. Bears look tough in the outside but are so loving in the inside. A very endearing quality .

5. Bears have a very rugged appearance. They look like men and not like boys or girls.

6, Bears seem powerful and I want a man to protect me. I am a small guy. I am attracted to guys bigger than myself.

7. Bears indulge in the simple pleasures of life : camping, laying in the sun, or communing with other Bears.

8. Bears help me save money. I don’t have to keep up with fashion any longer. No more expensive Armani for me!

9. Bears don’t discriminate regarding age. If your  facial and body is turning white, your considered a Polar Bear! How fun is that? Cool!

 

There are a lot of older gay men who never identified themselves with boyishness or effeminate males  that many in the gay mainstream culture tends to worship.

Bears are simply men who like other men. They are not trying to mimic a male-female relationship.

These are the reasons, for me,  why I fell in love with Bears.

Here is a special treat. A  viral video made by Singer Tom Goss explaining his attraction to Gay Bears! By the way, he recently married a Bear!

 

 

 

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12 Comments

  1. Mike

    August 25, 2014 at 1:21 am

    Bears accept themselves and are confident. He is not worrying about or comparing himself to others. He is saying that he is a man first and foremost.
    (This is just a blatant lie.)

    Bears like to socialize. They are mellow but not boring. They like to talk with each other and not stare into their cell phones. I like that I can see a person looking into my eyes.
    (You don’t know many bears, do you? Every bear I know has a mobile phone, and they use many apps on it.)

    Bears like to drink with each other and prefer not to participate in drugs. (That’s a blatant lie. I know MANY bears into MANY drugs.)

    Bears have a very rugged appearance. They look like men and not like boys or girls; there is no conflict between being gay and being masculine. (What’s wrong with an effeminate bear? Not a goddamned thing.)

    Bears help me save money. I don’t have to keep up with fashion any longer. No more expensive Armani for me! (That’s another falsehood. I know many label queen bears.)

    Bears don’t discriminate regarding age. If your hair on your head and your body is turning white, you’re considered a Polar Bear! How fun is that? Cool! (Yet another far out there one. Seriously? Are you 12?)

  2. Graham

    August 25, 2014 at 1:52 am

    I’m sorry but this is just like a massive crock of shit

    • Chuck Anziulewicz

      August 25, 2014 at 2:39 pm

      Why? Are there any statements in particular that you take issue with?

    • Darren Jackson

      August 25, 2014 at 3:06 pm

      Great! Passive-aggressive hate directed at nothing, about nothing in particular. Apathy has reached new heights!

    • Coleman Goode

      August 26, 2014 at 7:06 pm

      I agree and I love bears but these reasons are seriously out of touch with reality and the community in which we live in. Honestly I find none of these reasons to be why I am attracted to bears!

  3. Ivan de la Jara

    August 26, 2014 at 11:35 am

    You are fully out of reality

  4. bob

    August 26, 2014 at 9:50 pm

    Aww you forgot the racism and body fascism! The drug abuse is so adorable too, roid up everyone! Sleep apnea? Yes please!

  5. leo

    August 27, 2014 at 6:26 am

    so…true

  6. Niel

    August 27, 2014 at 9:55 am

    Bears are overrated! Why can everyone not just be a human gay being with all sorts of preferences Why do bears group on their own in life even birds sit on bears and run with wolves and leave the snakes alone!!!

  7. Lyndon

    September 14, 2014 at 2:21 pm

    Keep on writing, great job!

  8. Tino

    January 3, 2017 at 12:37 pm

    I am currently looking for love again and looking for LTR , I am cub I used to be cubbish until loss my late Husbear I believe in Monogamous relationship even in bear community I know exist today not all bears into polygomy or open relationship I’m interested in to monogamy , looking for date with bear, cub, daddy bear I looking forward date first later long term. My profile is Facebook page facebook.com/lilgothcub

  9. Chris

    January 5, 2018 at 10:20 am

    This guy is giving the reasons that HE loves bears and that is personal opinion. So stop hating !!!!

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